5 ideas for low key date nights
With the addition of the twins, my family of 3 has turned into a party of 5! The dynamic of our family has changed and this has affected how Don and I spend time together. Before the twins, it was easier to have a social life but things aren’t so easy now. To be brutally honest with you, it isn’t easy taking care of twins so I usually feel guilty asking my friends and family to babysit them.
However, I think it’s healthy for parents to get a break from their children. Years ago I expected Don to sweep me off my feet if we were going to have dinner etc. but those over-the-top expectations sometimes get in the way of the moment, so I told him to follow the KISS rule: Keep It Simple Silly. Since then, Don and I have date night or a date almost everyday and you can do it too. Trust me you guys are probably already having them and haven’t realized. We didn’t realize either!
Here are 5 ideas for low key date night:
- Watch a movie together
After the kids go to bed, we watch a movie together and snuggle up with snacks. It’s low key and requires nothing except a remote, a couch and a blanket. What’s more intimate than that?!
- Meet for lunch
Who says date night has to be in the night? Don and I work minutes from eachother so we always meet for lunch. We keep it simple by grabbing a bite at the food court and after we eat, we stroll the mall like teenagers. It’s the cutest thing ever and I really look forward to our lunch dates.
- Surprise pop ups
Don dropped by my work unexpectedly the other day with Starbucks and I was so smitten! We both had a busy day and he did a quick pop-up and left. So guess what I did a few weeks later? I popped up on him with a midday snack and we sat in my car and just vibed.
4. Have a favourite seasonal show and BINGE!
This one I really did not see coming. My husband loves electronics and the newest fad on the market so we have Netflix, an Android Box and a lot of other stuff that I think are unnecessary. However, they have really been coming in handy lately because now we can binge watch an entire season together. We only have one rule; no one moves ahead without the other. On the contrary, if Don falls asleep in the middle of an episode, I finish it and watch it again the next day with him. LOL!
We also try to compromise and respect our differences. There are some shows I have no interest in but I still watch the season with him and he does the same thing for me.
- Read a book together
I thought this would be a good idea but I was hesitant to ask Don because he is weird sometimes. Surprisingly, he said yes and we have been reading and discussing a really thought provoking novel. To be honest, I am doing most of the reading.
Date night can be so simple and easy so cherish the tiny big moments in your relationship. It all boils down to spending quality time together. More importantly, make your own rules in your relationship and do not allow anyone to define how you spend quality time with your spouse. Don loves basketball and if that man says Pia I’m going to shoot some hoops in the driveway. I’m hauling on my tights and sneakers! And if you know me, you know I am not athletic AT ALL!
Hit me up in the comments below. What do your date nights look like?
I love these ideas. I have a family of 6 (Me, husband + 4 children) and the struggle is real when it comes to date night. It is VERY rare lol. It’s either we are all going out or maybe one parent will remain home with the younger ones. My parents aren’t young anymore (my mother would say excuse me, if she saw this lol) and my children can be a little “unruly” at times, so I don’t bother them unless im really desperate. My husband and I were actually watching a movie last night and I fell asleep (I feel so bad now lol). I’m definitely going to try putting more effort into these ideas. Thanks!
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Wow the same thing happens with us! One parent usually has to stay home so we just started making the most out of our tiny moments. I honestly look forward to them! Let me know how it goes!
This just made me smile :). Relationships always need a little spark no matter how small they maybe.
I agree! Thanks for the comment!
This is literally my husband and I,we usually meet for lunch at work and jus sit in d car and eat and talk and laugh like teenagers.we get the stares alot but I don’t mind.sometimes I ask my sister to babysit and if she’s not available I just say forget it hun they are our kids no need to burden anyone with them,if we r going out and we can’t take them forget it.There is this one spot that we enjoy going tho by the Sea side just to sit and take in the sea breeze and look at the ocean it’s so calming.
Omg!!!! Thats so sweet! Yup! You have to make the most out of your circumstances!
So hubby and i went book shopping a few week back at indigo. Honestly it was suppose to be shopping for back to school for the son, but it turned out into a book buy date for both of us.. And we are reading a book together and discussing it.. well between school assignments and prepping for exam.
I really like that this is right up my alley- using the simple things and make them count.
You hit the nail on the head. Using simple things and making them count. Love!!
First time on any blog. Thanks Pia
Well we are going to have fun together!!! Welcome and thanks for checking out my blog.
My husband and I have been married a long time. So it in not only when your kids are small but also when they have grown up and leave home or involved in their own lives that it becomes challenging to find time or in my case to make time and have the inclination to date again. it is always something, the job, ailing parents, even daily chores. You need those moments doing things together. I believe it is very important no matter what stage of life you are in. These are good suggestions even for me! Good read.
Oh wow! I’ve never thought about it on that level. I guess no matter where you are in your relationship, it’s always going to be something. Again, I think it’s just the little things that matter. Alot of times men feel pressured so we just have to let them know that it can be even a little handwritten note; we will appreciate it! Thanks for reading!!